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Being a Working Mama
So many comments, so many opinions, so many feelings, and mostly such hard decisions.
Part I
I am a working mom of twins. I was, and probably still am, judged by some because my babies are in school (daycare), and I am back at work. Thing is, this is my life, my babies, my hustle. Let me explain.
Being a mom already demands so much from a woman, not only physically, but mentally and emotionally. Mostly, because we love our children so much, we question many things that we would never question before and then on top of our own mind overthinking everything, we have the outside world, who is very fast to comment or judge even when they don't mean to do so.
After long research, my husband and I found a daycare which we loved, has live cameras, everyone is certified by the state, has background checks and all else. Still, with the daycare being GREAT my heart ached because I knew it was time for me to go back to work and drop of my babies in school. I will say that we all have different lives as mamas, and therefore different choices to make. I also know, that once we are a MAMA we long for the woman we used to be, and we cannot wait to meet the woman we have become. So, if you choose to stay home- good for you! If you choose to go back to work- good for you! If you have to go back to work- it is your hustle, and yours only! Your life, Your babies, Your hustle.
I had to go back to work for many reasons and yes one of them being, let's be real, the extra money would come in handy. So, after long talks, and heart to hearts, my husband and I decided to register our babies into daycare at almost 5 months of age, and I decided to go back to work. It was a very tough decision as my heart felt guilty of having someone else take care of them while I worked, but a little part of me was also glad to feel like me again (whatever that is).
When that time came around, there was a lot of comments by some like, " Oh no! You should stay home more!", "But how? They are so little!", "You should not put them in school, they need you", and I even got an "Oh no, poor babies.". If you are a mom and have put your kids in school at an early age, you know how it felt, and if you are a mommy to be and this happens, do not allow this to get to you. You must remember that these people (whether they are family, or just acquaintances) are just commenting, they are NOT offering to help so that you can stay home; and that my dear MAMA is where the difference lies. This takes us back to: Your life, Your babies, Your hustle.
After weeks of struggling with my mom guilt as my babies were in school and I was back at work, someone told me, "Look Rommy F**** what those people said! And remember, poor babies are the ones that are in front of a tv, or any screen all day, poor babies are the ones that are left in a crib for most of the day, babies that no one plays with, that no one reads to them, that do not get tummy time, that do not listen to music and do other exercises that stimulate the brain. Your babies are healthy, happy, and loved; and that is all that matters." I will always hold those words close to my heart, as they made me feel better, and they made me embrace my reality, which is pretty great.
To end this Part I of "Being a Working MAMA", I'll say, decide what YOU see fit for your family and do not allow for peoples comments to get to you. Being a working MAMA is hard, but hey, you made a human in you, so technically this is cake.
Things I used to lift my spirits at work:
Because little things make a difference.
Blog by: MAMA Romms
Note that this is a blog, not medical advice.
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